Seeking the Silverlinings…

Shine On ,

For You are Light & Wonder

For there are Galaxies within You

and Stardust dances in your Soul

Stars Live in your Eyes,and

Glory & Grace live in your bones

You are Beautiful

You are light ,love and Wonder

You are Sunshine,Unicorn & Rainbows

Oh Dear Darling,

Glimmer like Galaxies

For You have the Strength to Bloom

Even in that Darkness which is Dreadful

Shine on Bright & Brilliant ,

To Find the Light to Escape the Darkness

Until then You Seek the Silverlinings….

A Battle with the Inner Demons.

Companions are them,who will never leave me alone no matter what …but they left me Inside the Darkness which I never wanted to be in…

These Demons keep Screaming Inside my Head,Eating away my Soul ,robs me of my Peace and does ‘everything awful’ leaving me into an Unsettling chaos forever!

They are the Voices Inside ME which keep me in Company even when I was not asking for it ,pushing me into a horrendous void where I Screamed on top of my Voice everynight,Cried my lungs out ,Pleaded them with all my heart to get out of me …Alas Nobody heard those tortured Screams !!

Though Nobody heard me,the fighter Inside me did not give up.
Putting my itsy bitsy pieces together, everymorning I woke Up to fight the Same demons that left me so tired the night before ,fought them with all my Mettle and Spirit hoping for a day when they will leave Me and put me into Peace .

This Battle with ME & YOU will go on until it Ends One fine day…
But You cannot defeat me on that day for I will Squeeze you with the Light & Might you deprived of Me but which I finally found out inside that darkness you meted out to Me!!

But then who are these ‘Voices’? Who are ‘They’? Is it ‘ Someone else’ Inside me or Is it a tiny ‘ME’ inside Myself??

Questions will Remain….

Battles will get over..

The Demons will be destroyed….

And the Hero will Remain Unsung!!!

~AMIYA FATHIMA KABIR

‘Indian Institution of Marriage’-A Delusion !

I am a 22 yrold girl . I was lucky enough in my life,for being born to liberal ,openminded and educated parents who fetched everything I needed in my life at the right time ,just to see me happy!

But growing up is not ‘Easy’,especially for girls, not inside their homes but in a society around overcaring, judgemental and annoying relatives ( not all of them ,but a couple of…)and acquaintances who keep on pestering you with the neccesity of getting married and about the ‘harmful effects’ of not getting married at the right time .Apart from the above fuss they inflict upon you, these people are fond of passing judgemental opinions about You( Starting the commentory right from the outfit you wear at that time and to the kind of posture you adopt to sit while talking to them) ,especially how you should become the the typical ‘Sanskaari Girl’ they expect you to be ,rather than being sticking on to yourself and your kinda notions and likings you perceive as you grow up!

I just thought of discussing these things out of a recent occuring I myself had in my life ,but not everytime!

A few days before,we just had a small family meetup .All of us were having a nice conversation and fun and suddenly somebody threw ‘ME’ into the topic.All of which happened after that was a hulabaloo!

As I had already mentioned I had myself passed the eligible criteria for legally getting married .To be honest, a few majority of my friends are either engaged or married or are into relationships.And there is a ‘Me’ who is still wondering and wandering in my own ‘kind of World and Happiness’.As I said ,one of my relatives enquired me about my studies and I replied that my studies are all finished and I was waiting for my results to take the next step, hearing which out of sheer responsibility of a loving ‘Aunt’ she asked my mom that your daughter is now grownup and it is hightime that she should get married!Hearing her advise i replied that , I will get married only after I am done with my higher studies,Become Stable on my Own and only when I feel myself to get married ! The reply was something absurd and ridiculous to (a few and not many) them as if I was saying something out of my immaturity and wisdom and they started teasing and mocking me like anything, saying if you are going with this decision, nobody will come to marry you at such an age.And then they started brainwashing me and my parents ,blabbering the so called cliched system of concept that girls should get married at a certain age like 22 or 23 ( literally the expiry period ) and when you are ready to marry at 25 or above it will be difficult for the girl to get suitable groom and she will be less desirable in the matrimony market( To be Precise) .These are the situations that a majority of Indian girls has to come across in their lives !!

Getting Married and getting settled as they say ( can be easily said than done) are not just easy for a girl.I know a couple of my friends who study with me , who got married at such a young age even before they could think of it only because they want to see their parents happy and not disobey them. Even if they obliged to obey their parents decision but deep down these people werent prepared enough for the ‘deal’ and it took some time to sync with things.I do not mean to deviate the topic by saying this,but to go through all this, a girl needs to be ready and prepared in all means ,mentally,physically and biologically.You can get married at any point when you feel yourselves to be stable by all these aspects.It might be different for different girls.This is a fact that people around us tend to forget.

Their basic idea is to get girls married as soon as they are finished with their studies or are eligible for getting married!

It is high time these people should open their eyes to this fact and respect each individual and their decision to lead their life as they wish.We live in the most modernised period ,and still we are overruled by stereotypes!

Marriage is not the ultimate goal in a Man/ Womans life .It is a legalised agreement two people get indulge into,for sanctioning the sexual act of procreation ,in simple words to get licenced to breed and produce progenies between themselves and to live a life with their desirable mate in a legalised affair.It is a part of our life and life is not a part of marriage!Many people tend to forget this.We all have one single life and we only live once.All of us were created by the God Almighty to live in this world not to just exist but to live for a purpose.And living is complete only if we learn ,grow ,create nourish,flourish ,
attains our passion ,spread love and happiness all throughout this single life.And in between all this is the ‘Institution of Marriage’.Marriage is Not the Sole Purpose of One’s life ,it should be done Only if an Individual is Ready to Share their Lives with Someone who are worthy of it and Not Just Marry because Society Asks you to do . One should not simply get married but marry someone whom you feels like growing up with!

Eventhough we live in the most modernised Period ,Somethings like Marriage cant Never be Changed.It is Deeply etched in our Culture & Minds that People cease to think beyond their already Softwared Brains.Men & Women are Equal beings!There is No need for a Woman to get Married for being looked after by her Husband after she reaches certain age!That is Real Ignorance and is the Sad thing that is Happening in our Country.Just like you Educate your Sons ,Educate your Daughters ,Let them Dream ,let them fly !Make them Stable in all Means not Just Financially through a Job but through all Means!And get her Married when she is Ready to do so and Not when She reaches an age to get married without Proper education or a Job to Stay stable on her Own.